Often I get into cross roads where I have to make a choice: is this the right thing for my son or not? The question gets more complicated, sometimes, when I have a strong preference for or against something.
If it is good for him and I also like to do it - no worries, the answer is clear. Go for it.
If it is not good for him and I also don't like it - again no worries, don't go for it.
The confusion comes in the other 2 cases:
It is not good for him, but I have a strong liking for it. For eg. he is more right brain types and I want him to become an Engineer. DISASTER. Something that needs to be avoided.
Lastly and most importantly, it is good for him, but I have a strong dislike. For eg. he likes playing with a neighbor's kid and it is good for him, but the neighbor and I fought and the heavens have fallen down. Here, it takes a lot of courage, commitment and what not to let him still do it. And if I did it, I really did something for him. Something worth cherishing and feeling proud of oneself.
When I am at crossroads, many a times this analysis helped me get to the answer quickly.
